Resolutions
First of all, I don't know how I feel about saying "twenty-ten". Do we have to say it? If we don't will we be like all the old people when we were growing up saying 19 ot 6? I don't want to be the old person that is for sure, but I am going to hold on to "two thousand-ten" for as long as I can.
Well, no matter what you are going to call this new year (not a new decade by the way) resolutions are inevitable in the Harper house.
At the end of every year Rex and I set goals for ourselves for the upcoming year
Some are about raising our family
Some are about his work, and my work at home
Some are personal goals
(I actually somewhat succeeded in this department last year. I am much healthier this January than I was last January,
and I hope to be able to say the same thing next January)
But all our goals are designed to better ourselves
As I sat down to set my goals for 2010 I could think of tons of things I could be better at:
I could mop the floor more often, read to the kids more, study my scriptures more diligently, pray more, work out more, eat better..... blah, blah, blah
The goal that I am most enthused about this year is my goal to be a more
"soft spoken parent"
I started reading a book at the end of the year entitled
The Soft-Spoken Parent
More Than 50 Strategies to Turn Away Wrath
By: H. Wallace Goddard, PhD
I don't really think that I have "wrath" per say, but I do know that I could be more calm when dealing with frustrating situations with my kids.
As I have been reading this book so many things keep popping into my head.
Do I want my kids to remember me as the mom that freaked-out, or the mom that dealt with things as they came?
Do I want their respect for me to be based on fear or admiration?
I don't want my kids to fear me at all.
I am beginning to realize that praying for the strength to deal with the day in the morning is not enough. I need to plan for what is ahead, and then pray I can execute that plan accordingly.
This is such a thought provoking book. I am excited to finish it, and try and use it in my everyday life.
Good luck sticking to your resolutions in this upcoming year
and
Wish me luck!
Happy New Year!!!!
Happy New Year!!!!
3 comments:
That sounds like a wonderful book that I might have to check out! Thanks for sharing! I tend to have the knee jerk reactions and then afterwards think "it wasn't necessary to react that way"
I haven't heard of this book but I am definitely going to check it out. I constantly find myself (even in the moment) asking does this really matter in the grand scheme of things? I'm just a loud person by nature to begin with but I HATE when my kids think I am yelling AT them when I really do NOT mean to be. I love (read HATE) when they say "Mom, your probably going to be angry and yell at me but......."
I may need that book! :)
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